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Man sharing with more than one woman. She is a man simply because there are not enough unmarried men to go around so that every girl can have one of her own. That's right. The U.S. Census figures show there are 48 million unmarried women to 31 million unmarried men, which means that 7 million women will be left that look old if they don't share a man with someone else. Determining the state of black America. I'm t munter, and I'll have a full report. My name is Tim Watt. And today on the entertainment page, it's a family affair for our music videos, the Jones Girls. And it involves brothers. And Michael Jackson's overwhelming success is causing some problems with the rest of his family. Well, I'm still trying to work out the arithmetic on the man. Our guest is family counselor Audrey Chapman, whose concept of man sharing has created quite a stir across the country. She's with us live when cityline join us and share your ideas of man sharing. Definitely. Boy. Welcome to City Land on a on a Super Bowl Super Sunday. We've got a super show for you today just before the Super Bowl comes on. We've got a very interesting show, man sharing and talk about a stirrer already. Chapman is a family therapist with the Howard University and she started talking about this about a year ago. What we first of all, welcome to City life. It's nice to be here. We're glad you could make it over from Washington today. You started this about a year ago. And the minute you say it, man, CHEERING Everybody jumped all over you. Well, I heard from everyone, including people out of the country.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667#t=16.32,141.62"},{"id":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667/transcript/47221/annotation/2","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"I've heard from people as far as Cuba, England, you know, different parts of Germany. It's been really incredible. What was you I got to tell you, the first time I heard man sharing, I mean, I said, boy, this is the greatest thing since sliced bread. Where do I sign up? I think, what do you what do you what are you teaching women how to teach other women? Not at all. Actually, the concept came about because women were coming to me, you know, friends, sometimes colleagues, and sometimes clients complaining about being in a relationship that they thought was exclusive, finding out that, in fact, they were probably sharing the man with sometimes 1 to 3 other women and then also having men come to them after a certain point in relationship, telling them that in fact it was going to be a sharing deal. Do you know what, Audrey? What's new about that? I remember as a child, and I'm sure it went on long before I was a child of one man having two and three families within a neighborhood. So what's new about that is very common. The only thing that's new about it is that women are saying, you know, I don't like it and I want to do something about it. I want to negotiate that. It was different in the past. Women felt they couldn't do anything about it. They basically had to put up with it. They were more dependent and felt more dependent on men and that they just had to go along with the program. Well, you know, I mean, but but isn't isn't this whole movement kind of anti-male? I mean, you know, you're telling women now how to deal with a situation that's existed for years and years.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667#t=142.1,233.96"},{"id":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667/transcript/47221/annotation/3","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"All women are saying is I want as much control over my life as you appear to have over yours. I want to pick and choose who I relate to when, where and how. And that's what's going on. Okay. I want to remind everybody at home that you can join in our discussion by calling 4113 13. And believe it or not, even before we said that we've got a phone call I think already knew that number. They are excited about your being here. Let's get them on the line right now. Hi. Want to talk to Audrey? Hi. Yes, I am. A black male is currently being harassed by three different ladies and it's more by circumstances than by choice. The ladies are very career orientated and they have been in past relationships where they have been hurt and they're just simply afraid of their emotional life, that they are afraid to really deal with our basic one on one relationship. They're afraid of being hurt. So therefore they turn all their energies to a career where personally, I would love to have a one on one relationship. I mean, what was the guy supposed to do? Put an ad in the paper, man? Hey, you know, I'm this great guy. I know a lot of people do that, by the way. It's like Audrey, talk back to him at this point. I'm glad you brought that up, because that's the other part of the phenomena of the sharing element. Part of it these days is to reduce the potential of being hurt, of feeling vulnerable, because people are getting hurt out there because a lot of our standards have changed in the way that we relate to each other. I did a workshop yesterday on commitment phobia, and I really believe that that's the origin of what this man sharing is really all about, that if you multiply your relationships, the likelihood of you getting intensely involved is not as great.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667#t=235.16,338.21"},{"id":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667/transcript/47221/annotation/4","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"So you find that if you want to have a serious relationship, sometimes it is difficult. I think initially the men felt threatened because of all the changes that were going on in relationships, and then the women began to feel threatened and now everybody is playing this two for two game or the caller. Audrey Chapman, family therapist from Howard University, is our guest today. This topic is man sharing. You can join in for one 1330. And we're going to come right back with more man sharing after this. Got to me. Never. Hot topic today. There's no doubt about it. It's man sharing. We're talking with Audrey Chapman, family counselor at Howard University. And Dan said that if you want to talk with us, call us at 41, 13, 13. But share your experiences. By the way, if you are indeed sharing your mate with someone, whether you know it or not. What's expected there? Audrey, what's the bottom line of the of the seminars that you conduct across the country? You're not you're not really teaching women how to cheat. I'm teaching them go with married men, know how to steal each other's men or or are you know, although they do come in all those categories, I'm actually teaching them how to cope with the pain that's associated with having to to be in a multiple relationship or the guilt. For women who choose to do it and some decide, well, it's you know, it's better to to join them than to fight. They feel guilty about it because society hasn't changed that much. There's still the whole issue of women needing to appear anyway to be more chaste than men. And so the moment a woman advocates that she is sharing, then she has to deal with the backlash of how people feel about that, particularly other men.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667#t=339.38,537.4"},{"id":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667/transcript/47221/annotation/5","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"It is a painful situation, isn't it, for a woman to share knowingly, Of course, sharing because it's like odd man out, I can imagine, at holidays and special occasions and so forth. How does she handle that? How does she deal with that? There's an incredible feeling of I must not be worth anything or I must not be as important as the other person. What's wrong with me? People tend to feel victimized, used, rejected, and they do become very, very sometimes even dysfunctional around this whole issue. What do you tell them? I tell them that first of all, they have to work very hard on self-love, self-respect, having some clear goals themselves about what it is that they want to bring into a relationship. But most of us think that we have to go these days and get something out of a relationship, and that's going to make our life better. But we're not talking anymore about what we could bring to a relationship, how we can give in a relationship. Everybody wants to take everybody wants to get something and nobody wants to give because everybody's feeling afraid. If they give, they're going to be vulnerable. They're going to be, you know, used, you know, they're going to be dependent. We're all trying to play it safe out here. And everybody is feeling very, very dissatisfied as a result of it. Okay. Let's take another call. Hi. Do you want to share an experience with us today? Hello? Hello. Do you want to share an experience for us? Um. My experience is that I am sharing. I'm married, man. And to be truthful, I didn't know that he was married. But when I first met him, he did not tell me. I have done several things to try to break the relationship, but he insisted on the fact that he loves me.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667#t=538.66,642.5"},{"id":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667/transcript/47221/annotation/6","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"I know I do love him dearly and I don't want anyone else. But just like the lady I had said, sharing the holidays. Okay, I get his birthday. He travels a lot. He sends for me, he flies me, you know, wherever I want to go when he's there. And that's nice, but I don't know what else to do. I'm tired of it, even though I do love him. But he's threatened to bodily harm to me also. You know, if I do leave him, I really don't know what to do. Yeah. Statistics show that one of the things that a lot of women don't realize, that statistics show that rarely do married men leave their families, number one. And a lot of women don't seem to understand that. So we make a full time job out of trying to get the man to leave and come to be with us. And that's just not going to happen. And in fact, what happens is that you lose the few things that you could have that you can enjoy in the relationship because you spend so much energy trying to to break up his of his relationship with his wife. I think you have to make a decision. I think that one of the things that I advocate is that life is a series of choices. And then if you chose to be in that relationship, even if you didn't know initially, at some point you found out you remained in it. So you have to make some decisions about how you're going to be in that relationship so that you can get the max of what you need out of it, or you really need to work on ways to move out. Okay. Thank you, Audrey. I think I think probably in the last couple of years it's been very well reported about the the the large or the disproportionate number of women in Washington.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667#t=642.68,734.75"},{"id":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667/transcript/47221/annotation/7","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"Mm hmm. To two men. Mm hmm. Is this a Washington problem or is this. I mean, you know, I don't feel it in Baltimore, I guess as much as I feel in Washington. You know, Washington has a lot of myths. I think it's a 7 to 1 myth. But there are a lot of men in Washington. Part of the problem, I find as I go across the country and I've been traveling for several months now talking to women and men, and that is that no matter where you go, people are talking about shortage on the West Coast. They say there are more gay men out there or there are more men that are relating interracially. So we have less men. That's a good point. It's just it's really the statistics. Male, female, really don't mean a lot. They really don't pull in the get. There are all these other things, the variables that that really play into the picture. And I also think another big variable, particularly in Washington, D.C., I find in New York City, is our selection process. It's not the kind of person, it's what that person is, what they can bring, what they drive, what type of house they live in, what kind of income they have, how they look. I mean, it's all those things that have to be we're looking for copy ready people instead of instead of a human being that might have some shortcomings, that may have some things they have to get together. They may not be at a place in life that they can totally bring themselves to you. But that doesn't mean that they can't work on that and get there. But, you know, we don't want any of that any more. We don't want to invest the time or the energy to make a relationship work.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667#t=735.41,824.18"},{"id":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667/transcript/47221/annotation/8","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"We want to just come to it and have it instantly fall into place and everything everybody's looking for Mr. Right. Everybody or Ms.. Right or Mr. or Mrs. Right. And that person just doesn't exist. Sometimes there is I don't know of a perfect person. We got a question from the audience. Yes, ma'am. My concern and question is how is mention going to affect that black family unit? Well, as brought up earlier mentioned, is something that's gone on in the black family unit for a very long time. I think the difference is that these days it's happening on a wider scale. I think it could be very destructive to the black family unit. If the black family unit doesn't decide to find a way to incorporate it so that it can look at it and look at the strengths that it might bring rather than at the negative aspects of it. There are some strengths in it. Just the mere fact that you've got more people who are involved, perhaps we could look at ways that we could pull on those resources a lot more. I think because we look at it as a very negative thing and there's a lot of deception that goes on. It makes for an awful lot of destructive behavior. Thanks for the question. We've got another caller from home. Hi, You're live on City Line. Hi. Hello. My name is Frank. I'm 19 years old and I'm calling from a district. I'd like to say that I understand a man who's separated from his wife and he also sees other women assassinate. But the way I keep his interest is to become more creative, to keep his dad for me. I always have something new for him, something to arouse his interest.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667#t=824.51,922.7"},{"id":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667/transcript/47221/annotation/9","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"And that's, in some ways, me more than other women. What kinds of things do you use to keep his interest in me? What kinds of things do you use to keep his interest? Oh, with my handiwork. It's a part of me. Massimo, We go early estimates. I mean, I know I take my spouse. I do. I do. Just about anything. I keep him with me. You know, I'm into photography. We take pictures. We've been to the mountains. He stays for me most of the time. But when he does go out to see other women, I must admit to myself that I do give for a moment. Or one of the things that I think that, you know, if you're comfortable with that, that's okay. I think we all have to find different ways that we choose to be in a relationship. But my concern is that here is that you're doing it. You seem to be doing an awful lot for him. And I really try to encourage women to do things for themselves. And then if they find someone that finds them enhancing as a result of that, that that makes it even more better. But when you have to work so hard and everything that you do has to be emulated through appeasing him. I have a real concern about that. I think you may want to look at that because somewhere down the line it's going to get you into trouble with him. Let me ask you, Paul, are you happy with your situation? Are you happy with him? Are you happy with yourself? Oh, I'm happy with myself sometimes. And he makes me happy a lot of the times. But like I say, when I'm not with him, I become very miserable.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667#t=923.69,1017.42"},{"id":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667/transcript/47221/annotation/10","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"Yeah, Yeah. What I'm hearing is that your entire life, I call it Lifeline, is connected through him. And even to the extent that if you're going to learn macrame or whatever it has to be, because it's going to make him happy. And that's what my concern is all about, that somewhere along the line, you're going to get very resentful and angry about that. And in some way that's going to begin to pick away at the relationship. Okay. Thank you for sharing that with us. Feel that kind of heat. Some of the things that Audrey is telling you, we've got so much more to talk about. Please stay with us after this break. Now, here's this week's community calendar. Good morning. I'm Phyllis Nelson, a member of the Baltimore Alumnae chapter of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Incorporated. We are sponsoring our 71st Founder's Day celebration on Sunday, January 29th, at 1:30 p.m. at the Forum on Primrose Avenue. Our guest speaker will be Hortense Cannady, the national president of Delta Sigma Theta sorority. The proceeds will benefit local Baltimore charities. For ticket information, you may call six, five, five, five, six, six, three. If your group or organization would like to announce an event, please write us in care of City Line WJC, KTVI Television Hill, Baltimore, Maryland. 212, one one. Or call us for further information at 4660013. Between the hours of nine and five. But we're back on City Line. And our guest is Audrey Chapman, who's a family therapist at Howard University. And the subject is man sharing and boy, is the subject can have a lot of fun with or I guess I just got to ask you, I mean, you're talking about sharing men, women sharing men. I mean, sexual partners.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667#t=1018.26,1300.99"},{"id":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667/transcript/47221/annotation/11","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"In some cases, in some cases not what I'm suggesting. I call it the ala carte method. That sounds tasty. Very tasty. Oh, black women have a variety of of male friends. You know, you might have the friend that comes over and he helps you to put the extra lock on your door. And you might have the other friend that's handy, you know, repairing things, the mechanic. And you might have a friend that you just talk to about some career interests that you need some support around. You might have a friend that you call up to talk to him about what you're going through with your lover. I find that very useful. You have a variety of friends and you might have some that are sexual to women generally have that many guys that they call friends the ala carte method. Or are we a little bit more traditional? Well, I think women are beginning to do that. As I go around talking to them, I find women, a number of women, they tell me they have some very good friends that they've never had sexual relationships with. Some of them are gay, by the way. A lot of women are finding that gay men make very good friends, and they're also older men, in some cases younger men. Although they claim the younger men, it's much more difficult to keep the sexual act out of the way. But it is possible to have you know, there are still women that say that it's getting through. The sexual part of it is the most difficult part. But I think we have to understand that, that, you know, anytime you put man and woman together, the sexual issues are going to come up. You work with those and you continue to work with them and eventually you get some good friendships.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667#t=1302.4,1398.49"},{"id":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667/transcript/47221/annotation/12","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"We've got some good callers on our line. Hi, your live on City Line. Yes. Good morning. Good morning. I just wanted to make a comment and I wanted to really address it to one of the callers about she said that she would do just about anything to break up that relationship. I had the misfortune of breaking up such a relationship many years ago. And I must say it was a misfortune because I was the one that was sitting at home and he was back, you know, with his wife running back and forth. So I wanted to just say, you know, to that type of situation, sometimes better leave well enough alone. Mm hmm. And another comment is that often if you find a man or a woman who will cheat on their partner, once you get them, you'll often find that they'll do the same to you. Oh, yes, definitely. And believe me, after 50 extra pounds of aggravation, I definitely put him out as it's not worth it. And I don't care what you say. It's better to just sometimes be by yourself and be, you know, aggravated than to have someone there aggravating you. But you didn't have the crux of what you're saying. I mean, what you're saying is that women have to learn to do for themselves. Yeah. And deal with realistically. That's right. The moment you believe that the only way that you can get any satisfaction out of life, any reinforcement, any any good feelings about being loved from someone else, you really put yourself at the mercy of that other person and has to start with you first. Okay. We've got a question from the audience. Yes, ma'am. Yes, Audrey, my question has to do with religion and marriage.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667#t=1399.42,1501.21"},{"id":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667/transcript/47221/annotation/13","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"It seems to me that I would wonder, as you traveled around and have spoken to people, if you found that this concept would affect the idea of marrying a person at all, since you're going to share, is that going to affect the idea of people thinking in terms of marriage since, you know, in the end, maybe you'll be sharing anyway? You know what's ironic? Well, there are two things. One is that people are sharing as a reaction to fear of rejection because they will end up finding out that there's someone else in the picture. On the other hand, I still find people who are looking for that exclusive relationship because they want to marry. This is particularly the never marriage. I'm not finding that to be as much the case with the divorcees or with the the widows of those people who have experienced marriage don't seem to be quite as uptight about it. They want a partner, but they're not particularly looking for a marriage. So it really depends on where you are in life. Some of it's very developmental if you're 20 and obviously marriage is much more important to you than if you're 55. So there are all of those things have to be considered. And if this concept is accepted and flourishes, it seems to me that in the end, somehow marriage will be passé. I have no question in my mind that it will ever be accepted. Women resent sharing, and I think men are beginning to find it very exhausting. And they're beginning to be. We're going to take another call. Hello. Hi. You live on the line. Hi. What's your comment or question? Hello. I would like to know where is the moral issue of. You come in to the picture? I mean, do people recognize that anymore if people are going to be sharing their men? Yeah.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667#t=1502.83,1609.88"},{"id":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667/transcript/47221/annotation/14","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"One of the unfortunate things that we've been going through probably since the early sixties when we had the women's movement and then the sexual revolution, is that for some reason values went kind of out the window. And I think people are not into looking at the fact that morals are a big issue here. On the other hand, I think they're beginning to experience it emotionally, and that's why everybody's in a lot of pain. I believe ultimately we will get back to relating more exclusively. But if we look historically, we've never done that on 100% basis. If we look in the Bible, there was Solomon and his 100 wives, and I can go on and on and on. So with you, David, in a few, though, we've never had a time in history where there's always been this exclusive arrangement. Okay. Thank you. And thank you. We've got a question from the audience. Yes, ma'am. Good evening, Miss Chapman. I'd like to know you have done a study on women share a man sharing. What about men's response to women sharing? Women having more than one man? Oh, men don't like it at all. They're very vocal about that. They have opinions about the kind of women that share all over the place. And if they find that that's going on in a relationship, they immediately break it up. So what what are we talking about here? Then? We have a kind of a multi-level in our response to this thing. On the surface, it appears to be very in and it's hip and it's cool, but underneath it all, we're getting to some rather traditional values. So you see what's going on is it depends on who decides who wants to share. When men decide they want to share, it's a given.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667#t=1610.36,1706.81"},{"id":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667/transcript/47221/annotation/15","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"And women are supposed to somehow find a way to deal with that. When women, on the other hand, want to share and advocate it. There's going to be a lot of backlash. There's a double standard or the one on one psychology or philosophy, rather. I mean, that's a hasty generalization. Well, that can't say. You can't say. I mean, you're saying essentially all women think this way. No, no. Generally speaking, you can always find somebody that doesn't fit into the category at all that when women share, they find even even the ones that advocate they're doing it, that there's an awful lot of backlash that comes with it and an awful lot of guilt. I get letters every day on that. Please help me to cope with the guilt. I'm doing it. I feel miserable about it. Okay. We're going to talk about that guilt when we come back right after these messages. It seems to me. Audrey Chapman. Audrey, I want to ask you a question. Mm hmm. Would you ever share your man? Well, when I was married, I did not knowingly. In fact, that's what broke up the marriage. How did you handle it when you found out? Oh, I was in a state of shock initially, and then went through the initial period of pain and mourning and feeling rejected. And then I went back to the drawing board and thought, you know, I just have to get this together. I have to start thinking about strategies for myself. And I began doing that. One of the things I think that makes a woman feel so desperately connected to men has to do with economics. And I worked very hard on that. And then I asked him to leave. Or you made the decision to break off the relationship and break off the marriage? Mm hmm.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667#t=1707.56,1912.9"},{"id":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667/transcript/47221/annotation/16","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"But you're now counseling people on coping with it. Mm hmm. Because I found that if I had had someone in those days to help me to learn how to cope with that, it probably would have been much easier. Mm hmm. Mm hmm. Monogamy. I mean, you know, we've heard allusions to monogamy, and it's still a big deal. A lot of people still still believe in it. Mm hmm. But. But you're dealing with single people also. And so, you know, you talk about the the Alucard method, where women deal with different men for different types of relationships. Mm hmm. How about other the other ways in which they might deal with it? Suppose somebody wants to be monogamous but doesn't want to make a commitment, apparently. Commitment to something? Yeah. Then they have to make it very clear to the party. And I don't mean initially, very clear, but, you know, I think we can tell when we meet someone whether that's going to be a person that we're more likely to get a monogamous relationship out of. I think the kind of of men and women that we go after says a lot about whether we really want commitment or not. I think many of us find ourselves continuing in the same kind of pattern, and we don't want to acknowledge that we have something to do with it. Okay. Hi. Do you want to talk to Audrey Chapman? Yes. Am I on? Yes, you are. Hi, Daniel. Hello. I'd like to direct questions to the therapist, please. Yes. I have three gentlemen friends, and it's not all our card because I'm not getting one set of roses. That married trip overseas with whom? I had a court. I would go straight to Egypt. Okay.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667#t=1913.94,2010.07"},{"id":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667/transcript/47221/annotation/17","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"Okay. Did you have a question? What's your point? I want to know, how can I get Ms.. Roses? You'll have to go out to the store and buy them yourself. I don't work again. Well, then maybe you need to think of some creative ways to find a way to make some funds and do that. Okay. Thank you for. Thank. Thank you for your time. You know, but, you know, you get the feeling, though, and I think we've kind of talked about it, that the that man sharing can lead to some rather callous attitudes towards relationships and the lack of commitment and so forth. Isn't there the danger in that, whether when when folks knowingly share? Well, it's neither side is pretty if you don't know. I believe that, you know, somewhere in your heart anyway. And you suffer. If you do know it's painful and you suffer. It's a matter of which side of the fence you want to be on. I have an old saying. If you know what the weather report is, you know whether to take an umbrella with boots, etc.. Okay. And if you go around acting like you don't know and you don't want to know, you're more likely to find yourself set up. Okay. We're going to try another caller. I want to talk to Audrey Chapman. Yes, hello, Miss Chapman. Hello. Hi. My name is Elisa Harris, and I was just calling. I wanted to make two comments, the first of which is the attitude that the people are taking. They failed to look at one thing. They have reason for it. Okay. We have so many diseases nowadays that are so incurable and everybody popping in and out of everything. You wouldn't know where you got it from.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667#t=2010.43,2111.41"},{"id":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667/transcript/47221/annotation/18","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"Okay. Go back and say you gave me this. Said it cannot be your wife. It could be your wife. Give me give me a second point quickly, because we're running out of time. Quick. I really do. I have a husband for children. If I ever thought someone was showing my husband, I think I would kill them. I really would. But I really think they need to take the positive outlook of help and to this so they can stop. You know, maybe if they stop going from person to person, they can cut down on the health related diseases that we are getting throughout these so many marriages. Okay. Oh, there's so many marriages have diseases and stuff like that. Thank you for your comment. You're exactly right. That is a serious consideration. Audrey Chapman is a professional counselor at Howard University. Audrey, you do workshops, doing workshops on a variety of subjects, but one of the ones that'll be coming up next month, February 15th, is Make sharing. We're inviting the men to come and join us. Oh, this is make sharing. This is makes you. We have to take one when away or three out of ten at Howard University Counseling Service, February 15th, 6 p.m.. And you can call Howard University Counseling Service for more information. Okay. Thank you, Audrey. Thank you. I see that you've created quite a stir across the country and in Baltimore as well, because we had a lot of experiences shared with us today. Thank you so much for coming. Thank you for inviting me. We're going to take a break and come back and we will be here with the news. What's. Good afternoon. Topping today's news caps, some good financial news to report for the presidential campaign of Reverend Jesse Jackson.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667#t=2111.95,2331.95"},{"id":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667/transcript/47221/annotation/19","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"Jackson has raised the necessary $400,000 needed in order to gain matching federal funds. He has already asked the Federal Elections Commission for the money. Six of Jackson's seven rivals for the Democratic presidential nomination have qualified for the funds. Jackson has named former Boston mayoral candidate Mel King and Dr. Alvin Poussaint, a prominent psychiatrist, as cochairman of his Massachusetts campaign for the state's March 14th primary. On another note, Pentagon spokesman say the Reverend Jesse Jackson will not be billed any of the $113,746 cost of flying home with Navy Lieutenant Robert Goodman, whose release he negotiated from Syria. Pentagon officials say there are no plans at the Defense Department to bill Reverend Jackson, whose party total 33 of the 53 passengers flown in U.S. military planes from Damascus. Financial news is not so good at one of America's oldest, predominantly black institutions of higher learning. Fisk University. 117 years old, is in dire need of funds for things like paying its gas and electric bills and keeping a seat on Howard. University President James E Cheek has come to the school's aid. Cheek recently convened a meeting of black leaders from across the nation. The group expects to raise $5 million to rescue Fisk from financial collapse. The state of black America, as assessed by one organization last week, is not so good. We get a report from Patricia Sagan. The state of black America is nothing short of disastrous, according to the report issued today by the National Urban League. While white Americans celebrate a long overdue economic recovery and a falling unemployment rate, black America is buried in a depression of crushing proportions. The plain ugly fact is that there is no recovery for black Americans. The report decries what it sees as moves backwards in civil rights.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667#t=2332.7,2447.45"},{"id":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667/transcript/47221/annotation/20","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"But its chief complaint is the failure of the Reagan administration to help the poor reap the benefits of the current recovery. Black unemployment is 17.3%, nine points higher than the nation's new average. Black teenage unemployment is 49%. And half of all black children live in households that fall below the poverty level. The head of the Urban League admits he would not have predicted such depressing statistics three years ago at the birth of the Reagan presidency. We didn't think anybody could mess up the country to that extent. But he has gained historical fame for his ability to do that. The solution, in part, he says, will come from Jesse Jackson's candidacy. It will mobilize huge numbers of potential voters to register. It will raise the issues most crucial to the black community. And he insists it will force the other candidates to deal with these issues, as he and many other black leaders are saying in 1984. Whoever gets the black vote this year must earn it. This is Patricia Segal in Washington. Baltimore attorney Anthony W Robinson tops our list of News Corp newsmakers today. Robinson was recently named president of the newly formed Minority Business Enterprise, Legal Defense and Education Fund, initiated by Congressman parent J. Mitchell. The privately financed organization will serve as the legal arm as well as lobbyist on behalf of minority business. Robinson will take leave from his law firm of Singleton, Dashiell and Robinson to assume his new post in Washington February the first. This coming Friday in Washington, D.C., members of a national sorority will unveil their program to deal with the plight of black single mothers. On the eve of their Founder's Day, Delta Sigma Theta sorority will inaugurate a national program to assess the s to assist the estimated 2 million black single mothers in the US.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667#t=2447.9,2560.1"},{"id":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667/transcript/47221/annotation/21","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"Leaders of Delta say they will be reaching out to all women's organizations in America to take action cooperatively on this important project. International News. The United States and Grenada's new government have signed an agreement and which Washington will provide a $5 million grant to help the island revive its crippled economy. The money is part of a $15 million program announced last month by US officials and is being supplied by the Agency for International Development. And finally, Angela GREENE, a very productive senior at Walbrook High School, is Cityline student of the Week. Angela has received awards for excellence in the areas of English science, math, social studies, French and junior Naval ROTC. In her spare time, Angela is a social service volunteer. Angela's goals for the future include becoming a computer technician and programmer. She's also interested in becoming a translator. Good luck to Angela Green, City Lines Student of the Week. And that is today's newscast. I'm. Tim, what is up next to do the same thing? And. Tim Watts has a double mixed today on the entertainment phase of Jones girls at the. Today. We have two music videos for you and some inside information about the upcoming Jacksons concert. But first, our videos. It's sort of a family affair. We start with the Jones girls. Needless to say, they're sisters and they are part of that famous Philadelphia sound. Their latest tune is called To Win You Back. Then we move on to a city a little further north. Boston, the home of another family act. Tavares. This group is made up of brothers. And if you're interested in Hollywood type gossip, one of them used to be married to Lola Falana. They've got a nice ballad out now. It's called Words and Music.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667#t=2560.79,2767.75"},{"id":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667/transcript/47221/annotation/22","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"Here's a city Line, double music, video mix, The Jones, Girls and Tavares. I think it's a fun fact. I have to find a way to bring it back. I got to find a way to bring you back. Well, she used to be my best. Don't underestimate her and expect her to see what she she's trying to do. She started coming. When you have. But. A chance to movie. She played such that she wore t shirts. But I was too blind. And she said they didn't want. To win you back. Oh, God. I was just. If the last thing that you would just benefit from get back. She tell me how you know so far. Trees. How do you feel? She got my shoes. You know when I saw you. You think so? Well. Have you ever been to like Miss Liberty and by just watching helplessly during your. It, Officer. Just. And we found. When you've got. You know, I've got to. You just got. You've got to. My dad. Very smart. In my day, he would not be. Ouch. Gracious kiss. And if someone wrote my story. In. Tried to leave you out. The most important part that show is. You're so. Life. A song that plays out, you know, broken. You. Music. You're the tool that I dream of and sing every morning in bed. Come through ways. You brought me. Unless you've shown me work. No one to love that show and know if I live forever. If I live in New. Is this hard to still work you and you alone. They. Yum, yum. You are. I. Do you love? Seeing every morning. You. You. Long. 200. That's the Tavares Brothers with words and music. And before that, we saw the Jones Girls.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667#t=2768.56,3244.84"},{"id":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667/transcript/47221/annotation/23","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"And speaking of family acts and entertainment news, I'm assuming you're getting a little tired of hearing about a young man named Michael Jackson. But we've learned a few things we thought you'd like to know about. First, it appears that the Jacksons concert in this area will be at the capital center in March or April. That's no surprise. But what is interesting is the rest of the Jackson brothers are reportedly getting a bit upset about Michael's overwhelming solo career. It's not that they don't wish him well, It's just that the Jacksons have an entire album on hold. The record company won't release it until they feel that it won't compete with Michael's Thriller LP. And at the rate that LP is going, the concert tour they're putting together now may be over before Thriller stopped selling. So it looks like the songs that are on the unreleased LP won't be included in their concert, and that's what's making the other brothers mad. They don't want it to be the Michael Jackson show when they hit the stage. One thing's for sure, as far as I'm concerned, whether or not the Jacksons new LP is released or not in time for the concert tour, when they get on stage, there'll be no doubt who's the star of the show. That's this week's entertainment page. My name is Tim Watts. See you next Sunday. Well just a fun show with They love did a nice thing, by the way. Did you get it? Oh, yeah. I kind of like all of the whatever, you know, next next week I had show coming up. We had a schedule once before and we had to we were preempted and so we had to take it off. Blacks for Reagan, I guess, is going to be a fellow by the name of Jay Parker.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667#t=3245.62,3342.63"},{"id":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667/transcript/47221/annotation/24","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"Jay Parker is president of the Lincoln Institute for Research and Development in Washington, D.C. He's also chairman of this organization called The Blacks for Reagan, who is? And that organization has been given $200,000 by Nick Peck, which is the Reagan political arm. And they are basically promoting the president as being good for blacks. Exactly. And there are a lot of people who don't understand how they could do that. And we're going to have Jay Parker here to explain why they support Reagan and why many of them are Republicans, which is also a questionable thing from some quarters. Not here, of course. Well, we're going to have a lot of fun. We just like we have fun this week. And, you know, you could be a part of our studio audience by simply calling 4113, 13 right this second. And, you know, we often tell you to be a part of our audience, just as Dan has done, and give you the phone number to call. But we also ask you to write. And Clyde Taylor of Baltimore City has done just that. He has written us and he had a response to a show that we did on child support. And we'd like to show you now just a segment of that show of that letter, rather, where he says that it is so much better to talk over, talk to talk it over, meaning that the differences that you might have concerning child support, which so many failed to do. And Clyde Taylor, you're exactly right. And we appreciate, number one, that you are taking the time to write us. And in the letter, by the way, Clyde Taylor said that he has a child, is separated from the mother, but he does support his own child and he is for that 100%.","format":"text/plain"},"target":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667#t=3343.74,3427.89"},{"id":"https://marmia.aviaryplatform.com/collections/948/collection_resources/103606/file/203667/transcript/47221/annotation/25","type":"Annotation","motivation":"transcribing","body":{"type":"TextualBody","value":"And, you know, you can write silly line by simply sitting down and composing your thoughts for a couple of seconds and write a said city line. Jay Z Television. Television Hill, Baltimore, Maryland. Two one, two, 112. Believe it or not, for the Television Hill address, it'll get right to us. And to remind you, you can be our in our audience for next week. Jay Parker Blacks for Reagan By Calling 4113 13 right Now. Quickly, today is Super Bowl Sunday and I'm going to ask Dan, come on. It's getting fan ratings. By what margin? Well, I wouldn't risk on family history. I'm only asking fan this year. Okay. So you're picking Redskin. I'm thinking of risk. Oh, dear. I thought we going to have a good wager going. I say Redskins by 7a7. I went out on the limb last year one, and a lot of people said that I should have ribbed you a lot more than I did. But I was being very calm. But you. But you beat me to death, right? This is. We took this in the city line. I'm Dan Hanson. Have a Super Sunday. Yes, I'm Jackie. Have a lot. You don't want to take the margin of the margin. Oh, my God. Love it. I love it. So. You are. I. Beautiful Zealand. Seeing every morning. 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